How To Overcome Blogger Envy

In the time that I’ve been blogging, I’ve seen it all; the good, the bad, and the not so pretty.  I love blogging and being apart of a community, which for the most part, is so incredible and supportive. But I wanted to talk a little about jealousy and how to handle it, whether you feel it yourself or suffer the backlash from others. Girls are taught to compete with each other
from birth. Just think how many times that you’ve heard “she loves
herself
” used as the biggest insult? Secondly, as bloggers, we are constantly
putting aspects of our lives on the internet for others to speculate about.
People talk. People judge. And perhaps the worst, people assume. We only offer
facets of ourselves on social media and it’s easy to piece someone together by their perfections whilst leaving out everything in between. 

Nobody can deny that the nature of blogging has changed rapidly
over the past 2 years. I remember reading blogs that were written by the everyday girl
in her bedroom.  Remember the days of a Boots haul with a webcam selfie and fuzzy lighting? It was the simplicity of it all that pulled me in. But nobody really wants to read about the girl in her bedroom
anymore. They want perfectly focused images, with the perfect white backdrop and insanely high standard editorial content.  In caring a little too much about this editorial standard I feel
that we might lose some of our realism, which is what drew me away from
unrealistic glossy magazines to blogging in the first place. Bloggers and
Youtubers are the new breed of celebrity and it’s crazy to think that what began for most as an innocent online escape has become one of the most influential forms of media on the planet.

Given these huge success stories and high standards, it’s
extremely easy to get jealous. I think most of us would be lying if we said that we don’t all crave that online recognition. I’m not going to deny that running my blog
full time from a perfect white bedroom stocked with pink peonies wouldn’t be the dream. But I think I need to get back to being that girl in her bedroom a
little bit more to remind myself of why I started my blog in the first place.
These are some of my tips on avoiding jealousy and encouraging a more positive
blogging community:

FIND YOUR NICHE AND RUN WITH IT 

Don’t feel pressured to conform to a
certain layout, way of taking photos, and writing style. When you write in your own voice you become a lot more comfortable with what makes your blog
“original”. Find what makes you different and embrace it.  The chances are that the times you try to write for the Popular page on Bloglovin, it will be a flop. Once you
become comfortable with YOU, your style, your “niche”, everything
falls into place.

EMBRACE THE COMMUNITY 

Blogging can get pretty self centred and egotistical. Taking the time to really interact with other bloggers by commenting and showing support is so
important. If you’re leaving comments because you want them back, people will know. You can tell from a mile off when someone comments simply because they
want you to look at their blog and comment back. Don’t be that blogger! Get
involved, show the love.

DON’T GET SO HUNG UP ON NUMBERS

Everyone started from the bottom and it takes a long time to hit
1,000, never mind 10,000 followers. Don’t allow your follower count to become a defining
factor in your existence. Calling yourself a “small blogger”, for
that reason, is totally counterproductive. Be proud of what you have achieved
and don’t play it down.

DON’T TAKE THINGS TOO SERIOUSLY

Blogging should be something you do to escape the pressures of everyday life, not one of those pressures themselves! Remember why you started and have fun. Unless this is your full time job, does it really matter if you forget to schedule a post? Don’t suck the fun out of what’s supposed to be a hobby.

LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF IS A LONG ROAD 

Self-confidence doesn’t happen over night and I personally believe that it’s a myth that anyone is 100% secure in themselves. Society constantly pits women against one another and is determined to tear us apart by our imperfections. The only way to overcome this is for women to make the conscious decision to hold each other up. Rather than allowing jealousy to consume you, let it fuel you to be the person you want to be. Being mean and catty on the internet is NEVER the answer for soothing low self esteem or a bruised ego.

So, that’s my two cents! I want to end this on a note of positivity. There’s always going to be negativity in blogging, but that doesn’t mean you have to get sucked into it. If it’s just you and your laptop vs the world, what are you achieving?

What are your thoughts? How do you feel more positive about yourself and your blog? Do you ever give in to the green eyed monster? 

Lydia Rose,

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20 Comments

  1. August 30, 2015 / 10:29 am

    I agree we shouldn't be comparing ourselves to others as we are who we are, i have found since i stopped being so hung up on the numbers etc my blog has done so much better x
    Emma | Emmys Beauty Cave

  2. August 30, 2015 / 11:38 am

    I can't agree more with this post! Thank you! I remember reading blogs and watching YouTube vids that I could really relate to but now, like you said, it's very glossy magazine for some. You have great tips and it is so important to stay grounded and be true to yourself.

    http://Www.littlekaatie.com

  3. August 30, 2015 / 1:16 pm

    I completely agree! I think people should just blog because they enjoy it or because they like to write, not just to focus on numbers. You definitely shouldn't compare yourself to other blogs, because at the end of the day, you're you and you should do what you enjoy! xox
    http://megangoodier.blogspot.com

  4. August 30, 2015 / 1:32 pm

    I couldn't agree more! I think your best content comes from when you are not feeling this way too
    x

  5. August 30, 2015 / 5:49 pm

    This is such a lovely, different and original post. Really loved reading this and has definitely given me some tips to stop myself getting jealous of other people's pretty blogs. Thank you so so much for sharing Lydia 🙂 xxx

    Love Charlotte xx
    scarletslippers.blogspot.co.uk

  6. August 30, 2015 / 5:53 pm

    I completely agree with this post! I really found myself getting hung up on my numbers, stressing out about my readership and thinking to myself, why isn't my blog as good as hers? Why does she have a bigger following than me? But going back to basics and reminding myself of why I started blogging in the first place, made me focus more on my content instead of comparing myself and now I am a lot happier with my blog. I miss the fuzzy webcam days too, its so important that bloggers stay true to themselves and these are great tips for doing just that 🙂 x
    Charlotte's Road

  7. August 30, 2015 / 10:41 pm

    Lovely post!! I completely agree with the points esp about the numbers, I find some are all about the followers and only want to gain a massive amount, whereas others, have seen some great bloggers and posts with a small blog community! Thank you for sharing your tips! 🙂 xxx

    Louise | http://www.thestylewalk.com/

  8. August 31, 2015 / 11:28 am

    This is a million times over. Great post my sweetness. It's important to remember that everyone starts in the same place, but still refreshing to remind everyone that progression is natural and down to each individual!

    Megan xo
    Thumbelina Lillie | UK Beauty & Fashion Blog

  9. August 31, 2015 / 2:00 pm

    I love this post. As a fan of designing blogs I'll see a blog layout I like and then feel like I have to go and change my whole design, and I'll be planning it all when I stop and think,'wait. what am I doing?' It's tough when you forget that everyone tries to only show the sunny side on their blog.

    http://sailseafox.blogspot.co.uk/

  10. August 31, 2015 / 3:18 pm

    I needed that post in my life. I am just starting and to be honest I panic a lot (Is this post good/long/shiny enough? Why no one is looking at my page? How did I only have 5 visitors yesterday?!?). I am slowly starting to unwind, relax and let it all flow, but it's still so hard to do. Actually reading all the blogs around, visiting and participating is the best part of it and it helps a lot (because there is a lot to learn and see out there), so maybe some day I will get over refreshing Analytics every 5 minutes. 😉

    Linda D. ❈ Will-Work-For-Coffee

  11. August 31, 2015 / 8:05 pm

    I relate so much to this post 🙂 blogging has become a lot more enjoyable since I've tried to stop comparing myself so much to others and started concentrating on making my blog the best it can be 🙂 xx

    Jasmine Talks Beauty

  12. September 1, 2015 / 4:20 pm

    This is a great post – Even though my blog is still pretty tiny, I've still found myself comparing it to other people's & wondering whether I should change certain aspects to "fit in". However you're right.. blogging is supposed to be a fun hobby & definitely not something that should cause worry or upset.

    🙂

    x

    Small&Blonde ♥

  13. September 4, 2015 / 4:19 pm

    I absolutely love this post! Couldn't agree more that we need to encourage positivity and encouragement amongst woman instead of falling into societal stereotypes. Peace and love need to be spread! Great job!

    Rachael x

    http://rachaelsmode.blogspot.ie/

  14. September 23, 2015 / 3:22 pm

    It's so true! When I first started blogging a few months back I used to drool over 'famous' bloggers all the time! I spent hours on Etsy trying to find the perfect template but after a while decided to just HTML and CSS it myself. Now I'm super happy with the way my blog looks and feels. It's not finished, but for the time being I'm so in love with it!! <3

    http://lifeaccordingtolili.blogspot.co.uk

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